Because Emily wants above all to be seen and I just want to see,
and take a few pictures.
Which makes me a voyeur, but I'm not ashamed of that. In French voyeur just means someone who is a seer. So all photographers are voyeurs, though not all are really seers. A seer is a visionary, one who sees what others miss, who looks beyond the surface of things to what is essential, to what is usually invisible.
It's the Peeping Toms who have given us a bad name, stalking women, scaring them, masturbating outside their windows. For the true voyeur, watching a woman undress is like the ritual unveiling of a religious idol in an ancient temple. It's a sacred act.